(Week 16- MKMMA) What you are looking for you will find! An exercise in seeing Kindnesses in every day.

This week, one of our tasks was to notice kindnesses as well as give kindnesses every day. We were also instructed to share those with our “classmates” in a masterminding forum dedicated solely to sharing these acts of kindness. Last I checked, we were well over 4000!! 4000 ways people went out of their way to be kind to those they crossed paths with or ways they received kindness. Giving & receiving, the ebb & flow.

This week, I felt like I was more on the receiving end. I am so grateful for all the kindnesses shown to me and for the kindnesses I observed. Everything from D cleaning up a water spill that C made, cheerfully and quickly without any thought to the fact that it “wasn’t his mess”, to T making us dinner tonight, to the manager at the kids play area we visited on Wednesday being friendly and seeing if we needed anything. I 100% loved reading all the creative ways people chose to be anonymously kind and give a little something extra to complete strangers. The more I intentionally sought to notice and recognize kindness in many forms, the more I saw, and the easier it became as the week went on. I am excited to continue finding ways to show kindness and receive kindness offered in the coming days & weeks.


โ€œ…a river, not a reservoir…โ€

โ€œIt is a law of nature that you cannot reap without sowing. Thatโ€™s why itโ€™s so important to give first, before you expect to receive. The compounding, positive result of practicing this principle for many years has now given me an immeasurable return on my investment into peopleโ€™s lives. People are not only making a difference, but they are also investing in others who are making a difference. Iโ€™m seeing season after season of harvest in the lives of others.

This give and take is natural, like breathing. You take in air; you blow it out. You can never just breathe in. Nor can you just breathe out. Both are continually essential. Likewise, we give to others and receive from them. Our lives are to be like a river, not a reservoir.

What we have should flow through us to others. The moment the good things we have to offer begin flowing from ourselves to others, the miracle of intentional significance begins to happen. The more we share, the more we have. The more we have, the more we can give. We donโ€™t hand out significance in little doses over time. We unleash it. Thatโ€™s how we build a life that matters.โ€ โ€“John C. Maxwell

Donโ€™t Dig Up in Doubt What You Planted in Faith (Week 15 MKMMA)

It been a very intense, fast paced, full few weeks at home, with our extra cold weather, and the holidays.

The last 2 weeks of posts, if I’m honest with myself, were less than satisfying to write. It’s what I had the time/energy resources to simply crank out, a last minute summary of how things were going. Highlights from the course I’d been chewing on. Requirement met. But not nearly as fulfilling and enjoyable to write as those posts in previous weeks that have practically written themselves.

It was a lovely break from school, filled with visits with family, baking projects, lazy pajama days, time playing outside when it wasn’t crazy cold, T getting called in to work a “fair amount”, craft projects, days when the 3 littles had major cabin fever, adjusted nap & bedtime schedules, more dishes & laundry than usual, a trip to the local North Pole, fun movies at home, a lot of illness ๐Ÿ˜ฆ towards the end, and a couple home improvement projects.

With the days as full as they were, I had to rely heavily on routine & habits established during the first 14 weeks of MKE to carry me through.

I started gaining more clarity around my DMP and PPNs, somewhat through process of elimination, and somewhat through conversations with other people, and finding inspiration from them.

The Flash Cards have been life savers! They are easy and fast to fit in throughout the day in tiny increments of opportunity, yet the continuity in linking they offer is profound.

The areas I fell behind (like the weekly service, for instance) instead of dwelling on that, I let it go and picked up again when I could rather than beating myself up over it or trying to play “catch up” & giving into overwhelm. I had the a-ha that the service I had chosen for 11/19 was too complex and a “bigger bite” than I really should have committed to, so I’m breaking it down into realistic pieces for success! So freeing!!

Also- my dad gifted both D and A really cool magnifying glasses and A a compass! To my knowledge, he isn’t aware the significance that both of those items have to me relating to MKE. When the kids opened their gifts, my jaw dropped. Integrated reminders and connections that I had no active part in!

I also won a drawing for Blue Tansy essential oil on a friend of mine’s Facebook group. I was not familiar with Blue Tansy at all. Reading this page though, I felt a very tangible buzzing sensation course through my entire body! So exciting! My friend even said she prayed before doing each drawing that God would connect the right person with the oil being drawn for.

This course, the people I’ve connected with through it, the mindset shifts happening…have all been life changing and incredible. I can feel the shift on a daily basis. The change in me is changing my relationships as well, for the better. When I find myself slipping and identify old blueprint type reactions happening, it is easier for me to more quickly identify and “re route”.

Has it been easy so far? No

Has it been worth it? Resoundingly YES!

I’m looking forward to 2018 and 40, and all the good that will be happening between now and December!

In the Flow- Part 2! (Week 12 MKMMA)

This week continued to demonstrate to me some amazing examples of the law of giving and receiving.

I am continuing to make progress on decluttering and clearing out items we no longer use or need. One of the things that has slowed my progress in the past is the desire to sell them vs just give them away.

This week I found new homes for a high chair, baby walker, sleep sack, tiny shoes, and a Christmas tree. People that could use those specific items!

We also shared pumpkin pie with a dear friend whose dog passed (D’s idea) and loaned some winter & baby gear to visiting family!

We were given a pair of snow pants and they were hand delivered (filled a need!), a Christmas plate of cookies by a random fellow (regular) customer at Kwik Trip, major assistance juggling purchases and children at said Kwik Trip, and the time freedom to surprise A at school and help her build her gingerbread house ๐Ÿ’—. I received customer orders this week for my business. Wisconsin got its first real snowfall this week and I had a chance to play outside with the boys in it. We spent time with Grandma & Papa this week for a fun quick visit. I am celebrating my 39th birthday today, with my family, including lunch out. I’m grateful for another year of life. My best friend of 18 years sent me gerbera daisies …my favorite flower…a birthday surprise… though she’s on the east coast we are still so close in spirit.

I continue to remember that people and places I am giving to will likely not be the same places I am receiving from, and that’s ok! See a need, fill it, and trust that my needs will also be met.

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Psychological Triggers- MKMMA Week 10

When you read or hear the phrase psychological trigger, do you associate it with a positive or negative?

I have been jotting ideas & notes as they cross my mind for blog posts. Topics I’d like to explore, stories to share, personal “a-ha” moments to celebrate.

The topic of PTs links back to a note to myself I made about a month or more ago, when someone very close & dear to me said something in jest that really hurt my feelings and I found myself reacting internally more tenderly than I would’ve thought. I tried to just let it go & move on, particularly because their intentions were not unkind, but I couldn’t seem to shake it.

I decided to share my hurt feelings with this person and also acknowledge that I knew it wasn’t a malicious comment. They apologized. Later that day I had this light bulb moment- so I also shared with them the realization that it wasn’t really their comment that generated such a powerful overwhelming negative emotional reaction, rather, it was ALL the years of baggage that it linked to for me. And the very cool thing? In this instance (and hopefully more!) I was able to say “I’m done. This phrase/comment won’t bother me anymore. I’m letting go.”

In our coursework with the Master Keys Experience we’ve been using Colors & Shapes to create positive PTs for our subconscious, building upon them every week! Linking, connecting, to turn ordinary, routine days into days filled with a nearly constant passive bombardment of positive, beneficial, associative catalysts!

It is so exciting to me to know that if that negative PT could have such a powerful grip & effect on me without me even knowing the hows & whys & longevity, how much greater and more profound and remarkable impact will all the positive PTs, seeds that I’m intentionally, methodically, daily planting, have on my life and my subconscious in the months & years to come?!

Penzeyโ€™s Pumpkin Pecan Pie

This is in the works today! I roasted some pie pumpkins earlier this week, so our purรฉe is ready to go! When you can’t decide which kind of pie to make… incorporate 2 together! It’s easy and relatively fast. Just be sure to allow a couple hours for refrigeration once it’s cooled.

I’ve made this several times since discovering the recipe in a Penzey’s Spices catalog almost a decade ago. It’s a family favorite!


One 9 inch unbaked pie shell

One 15 oz. can solid pack pumpkin (or homemade equivalent)

1/3 cup brown sugar

1/3 cup granulated sugar

3/4 tsp. china cinnamon

3/4 tsp. powdered ginger

1/8 tsp. salt

1 tsp. pure vanilla extract

2 eggs, well beaten

1/2 cup milk


1/4 cup butter

1/2 cup brown sugar

3/4 cup coarsely chopped pecans

Preheat oven to 350 degrees.

In a mixing bowl, combine the pumpkin, brown sugar, granulated sugar, cinnamon, ginger, salt, vanilla, eggs, and milk.ย  Mix until well blended.

Pour into the unbaked pie shell.

Bake at 350 degrees for 40 minutes.

Meanwhile mix the last 3 ingredients until crumbly.ย  Sprinkle the topping on the pie.

Bake an additional 25 minutes.

Cool and refrigerate at least a few hours for easiest slicing.

Week 9 MKMMA- But how did I get here?!

The subconscious power we are mindfully using to create and shape our future reality is the very same subconscious power that (unharnessed) created the circumstances & conditions that are obstacles to creating our new desired realities.

Happy Thanksgiving! I hope all of you who celebrated Thanksgiving this week have enjoyed wonderful fellowship & food with loved ones! We chose to go low key here on Thursday with just our immediate family. The kids and I saw T’s folks on Wednesday morning for breakfast and a cookie baking project. We will be celebrating on Saturday afternoon with my parents and a few others. I can’t wait!


It has also been a full week as T got called in on a main break Tuesday night late and didn’t get home until Wednesday afternoon. That hardworking tired guy headed to bed shortly after and didn’t get up til Thursday morning! Neither of us can recall the last time he got 7-8 hours of sleep let alone double that! Well deserved and much-needed! ๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ด

I still have part of the week 9 webinar replay to listen to as I fell asleep trying to finish it the other night. Here’s the thing though, there was such an incredible point made near the very beginning, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about that all week. When I considered what I would write about for my week 9 post, that was the obvious choice.

A large part of this course is learning how to actively and intentionally influence our subconscious (and the world within) to shape our lives and our future (the world without). Have you ever looked around at your life and wondered, “How did I get here?!” ๐Ÿค” Whether in positive wonderment and gratitude or perhaps during a difficult season, in grief and discouragement. Either way, the answer is the same.

I was sitting on D’s bed tonight after 9pm, slightly frustrated because he was still awake. He played really hard today with a friend AND I woke him early from a nap to get outside for a walk. How was he still awake?! Gah!

Baby C was asleep beside him in the queen futon- we three are typically all together for bedtime and books and I move C once D is asleep or when I sneak out. This is not a rare circumstance these days but nevertheless still one I have a bit of love/hate relationship with. I adore him, he gives the best snuggles, he’s thinking some pretty big thoughts and asking (23,001) fascinating questions these days. Many of which come out at bedtime in the near dark while he processes and tries to “give up the day”. All good, except it means that for now, my time to myself is still quite limited, even at night, especially during the regular week. And some nights I fall asleep getting him to sleep and wake up at 11 or midnight, with prep for the next day still left to do, only to wake up at 6 or a bit before to start it all over again.

Anyway- so I’m sitting there, being present for my little man who is yet scared of the dark, torn between giving in to just falling asleep there and trying to stay awake to “get some stuff done”, including this post, and finishing some other coursework requirements. I look around and the corner of the room/office closet to me is still a major work in progress. The room is in transition from being our office/catch all room (sad) to D’s room. I start to mentally beat myself up for not getting it done yet, for being so disorganized, for having such a cluttered space, etc. I catch myself and mentally STOP. How did I get here?! How did this room become so cluttered? How did my workspace, a bit indicative of my business habits, become so chaotic? Why can I hardly see my desk?! How did I get to the point where outgrown clothing stored in diaper boxes and miscellaneous work resources and other random things in bags are haphazardly stacked, threatening to shift or topple, if like a Jenga game piece 1 item is too casually pulled out?!

I know how I got here. Every time I made the choice to not deal with something and instead stuff it in a bag, not making that space a priority, to not simply donate or give away or sell the outgrown kids’ clothing, to not have a designated recycling bin very handy, etc, that all adds up. It didn’t get so messy and cluttered over night. Small bits of undisciplined and thoughtless choice over time. It’s not quite as black and white as that to me, as that doesn’t factor in life’s circumstance outside of what we can control or any of the emotional baggage potentially connected to it. However, that does account for a lot.

Conversely, small excellent choices every day also have a cumulative effect. That’s some good news!!

I’ve been tackling my home in zones. Picking which area needs attention and love and decluttering and a solid dose of my creative energy next. I’m learning it’s less disheartening and overwhelming in smaller chunks. And rather than looking at a spot and feeling self loathing I’m seeing opportunity to create a better and more useable space. So rather than expending energy and time and thought in bemoaning what is and feeling bad about it, it would seem better to change those thoughts into more constructive, action oriented game plans. And putting into place better habits and disciplines for the future, for myself and for my kids to model.

The subconscious power we are mindfully using to create and shape our future reality is the very same subconscious power that (unharnessed) created the circumstances & conditions that are obstacles to creating our new desired realities.